AS SMOOTH AS BABY'S BOTTOM
"very smooth and soft, with no imperfections"
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If you’re bald and reading my guide, chances are you’re not happy about being bald.
What went wrong? Some of you are finding yourselves bald for the first time (it’s scary). Some of you might have been bald for more years than you can remember having hair.
And some of you, share something more than baldness. You share the frustration of being bald.
Yet, there are two sides to every coin. Because, you see, to some other women – and to me -, bald means free.
It means I can dive from a cliff, ride on a roller coaster, date, make love, be carefree! Bald means I can be myself, it means that my smile will smile more than my eyebrows, and my eyes will shine brighter than my lashes.
Was I always this happy about being bald? No, lady, I wasn’t. I was full of anger, discontent, and I couldn’t bear looking at myself in the mirror.
So, the new question is… what went right?
I did what every human being going through a hard time needs to do when they want to stop being miserable: grow some balls, toughen up and work on the issue.
It doesn’t matter if it hurts, if you have to go to hell and back, if it means you will lose some friends, or even your dignity.
If you’re not able to commit to yourself, your health, your well-being and your happiness, then I can’t help you.
There is only one path out of this. It leads to you accepting yourself so that you can, finally, love yourself!
My tutorial is practical and easy to follow, but most importantly, you can take it at your own pace. It just requires time and all the stubbornness you’ve got!
Do you think you have some of that?
The safe way of dealing with lack of hair is learning how to play with your look, so that you finally have different options to choose from when you want to go out.
By the end of this guide, you will be able to do your make-up and learn what styles best suit you.
When it was my time to switch, once I understood how my face worked, I was able to play with it. Playing with my appearance changed the way I felt about my baldness. I was finally in control of myself again. Because I could choose how to look. I was not just a blank canvas anymore.
I learnt that if I want a natural look, I can get it in less than 10 minutes.
Strangely enough, the sensation of having options has given me the strength to reveal myself to the world, as bald as I can be, feeling beautiful and shiny, ready for anything!
What I discovered was that: when you stop hiding, and accept your good qualities as much as your flaws, you are invincible and people will want to be you!
You have ONE rule though: don’t take it out on the mirror. The mirror is NOT your enemy, it doesn’t reflect who you are, it only reflects what you think of yourself. It reflects the truth, not YOUR truth.
I have drafted a safer route so that, after you’ve read this guide, you will feel like you are in control again. Because, if you scratch the surface, this is what upsets you the most: the lack of control. You have been living in this limbo that I like to call the “what is going to happen when…” zone, or “the hell pit of low-esteem moments in your life”.
“What is going to happen when” you are not in control of
- what is happening,
- what people will say about it,
- explanations your friends need,
- the worried looks of your loved ones.
You don’t have power over these situations anymore, and that is the hard part to accept.
We need to get you that power back.
Let’s flip the narrative!
Let’s imagine you made the choice to have no hair. You woke up one morning, looked in the mirror and said: “oh my god, I had enough of this hair, I’m going to shave it all off and be done with it!“; you got scissors, a razor and followed through.
You would still get the same puzzled expressions and questions from the people around you. But this time you made the choice to have no hair, so what would you reply to these people?
Now, you can learn how to look awesome on your own: read my guide and try to do this by yourself. You don’t have to explain this change to me or anyone else. Your way, your time, your judgement.
But also remember, sometimes we are the worst critics when it comes to ourselves, we tend to judge harshly something we wouldn’t have even noticed on someone else. So, in case your brain is not helping, send me a selfie on Instagram and I’ll be your mirror!
Here’s The Bold Girls Guide!
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