"I've been pulling my hair and now I see a hole in them, how can I stop?"

"How do I do make-up on my eyes if I don't have my eyebrows and eyelashes anymore?"​

"How can I stop alopecia?"​

"Should I wear a wig?"​

"How can I find the courage to shave my head?"​

“Answering these and many other questions is the reason why I decided to become an image consultant and life coach for bald women.”

what is an image consultant?

Usually, an image consultant is a professional figure that helps improve the image of the client personally or professionally through appearance, behavior and communication.
It is the process of evaluating the effect of a person’s appearance on their professional image.  (Wikipedia)

how did i apply it on women with hair issues?

My bald patches started to show when I was 11.
Back then, fewer were the options that I could choose from and poor were the information that I could find off and online.

I have found my way to freedom from shame, embarrassment and inner voices that scream “you are ugly”. But it took me 10 years to get here and other 4 to understand fully what I had achieved.

The experiences I have collected have made me aware of what a woman needs to go through when her body doesn’t have hair or lacks some.

Talking about it with someone that can understand you’re going through is the first step that grants you freedom.
What comes later, the help in reconstructing a look you come to love of yourself, is secondary to the talk which is bound to highlight the options you have to proceed in your journey.

That’s why my job is not only about image, but it is also about perspectives to adopt in life!

Life Coaching: how a different perspective can make you switch from being bald to be bold

When you start losing you hair, it feels you are losing part of what made you feel beautiful, even more, of what made you feel you.

If you’re single, you might think things will get ugly for you. If you’re in a relationship, will that person be able to accept you even if you’re bald?

Silly questions, if you look at them from the outside. But they feel like giants on your shoulders when you’re living inside this situation; your head starts running in circles and you get stuck in this loop of negativity where everyone seems to notice your vulnerability and judge you for it, feeling sorry for you.

How to step out of it? Doing this alone it’s a hell of a challenge! It’s not impossible, but it could take you ages to figure out how to put your like back in line while facing the change your body is undergoing.

A life coach is there to help you see things in a way you couldn’t possibly think of if you had to fight all this by yourself.
A life coach helps your choosing a course of action to make your life be what you want it to be.

At that time, there was no one that would tell me what to do to repair the damage, to hide what I was ashamed of having so much in display: that face that wasn’t me, that head that was sick and ugly, that image that strangers, acquaintances, friends and family now saw as “sick”.

I understood that something was wrong when the expression over my parents face changed in shock.

Since then, I could only hear my reflection in the mirror screaming that I was an ugly monster.

My sister was the first one to try and help me, she gave me an eyebrows pencil telling me to draw my eyebrows; she also gave me a black pencil to mark my eyes where the lashes were lacking.

The eyebrows pencil was way darker for me and the black pencil would always melt down and make me look an emo, but hey I was still happy of the result. Now I laugh at that way of patching myself up! I was very young, but that solution helped me a bit anyway.

During the following years I often abused of make-up resulting “too much” or even vulgar, I was hungry to hide my flaws as much as I could, but I didn’t have anyone suggesting me to do otherwise.

What was more important, according to those who cared about me, was for me to resolve the issue with myself from the inside and all things related to my actual image situation, were considered not relevant.

 

I remember the day I proudly showed my bald head to the world, 9 years had passed from the beginning of my illness, my teenage years were lost forever to that monster inside me that had left permanent scars both inside and outside my body.

Well. The day my shiny head felt the sun again, I couldn’t feel more beautiful or happy about how I looked.

I felt empowered and invincible like Wonder Woman.

Even today, when people ask me to show them my bald head (yes this happens a lot) I get a strange feeling inside my stomach, as if shame had left a scar that hurts a little every time this happens, like a small reminder that is there.

When I show it though, I am still proud of myself, for it took me very long to get there.

I could seriously write for hours about the things that happened to me as a bald girl, the emotions I felt in different occasions and the experiences I turned down because I didn’t have the courage to show myself for who I was, but this page is not the right page to talk about it.

This page I am writing because I have decided to:

  • Collect all the experiences I did or I was forced to live and put them at good use
  • Squeeze my knowledge after numerous years of different kinds of therapy – that mostly did not save me, but in the long run made me see another point of view and change my life for the best
  • Help you choose the enlightening moments over the low ones
  • Settle for the right tools instead of spending money on useless paper band-aids
  • And create an explosive package to help other women like me to make a statement out of their new look, from being just bald to be bold!

THE BOLD GIRLS
#theboldgirls

the first customized guide cutting through the problem of hair loss

why i decided to create my own consultation program

our mind raises many questions when something like TRICHOTILLOMANIAALOPECIA and CHEMO take away your hair.
And answers seem nowhere to be found.

When I was a teenager, I tried looking on the internet for possible tips on how to survive this period with dignity – at that time I didn’t know it would be a permanent effect – and I could only find forums where people having the same problem poured their hearts out in order to find some comfort.

Today, other options that you find online are step-by-step guides describing all the tools I have been using myself. There are a few sites where videos are shown and you can read of these instructions freely, as a lot of women have been looking for a way to restore their look, especially when going through a hair loss due to certain illnesses like cancer.

But…there is a problem!! I still haven’t found a single website where these treatments empower you with

  • look that you want and accept independently from your sickness;
  • a look that’s yours and feels like it suits you;
  • a look that comes from your decision as a person that has been faced with a problem and she has taken this problem as an opportunity to build something better for herself

while taking it upon themselves to be a personal guide that you can see, talk to and place your trust with.

how did i apply it on women with hair issues?

My bald patches started to show when I was 11.
Back then, fewer were the options that I could choose from and poor were the information that I could find off and online.

I have found my way to freedom from shame, embarrassment and inner voices that scream “you are ugly”. But it took me 10 years to get here and other 4 to understand fully what I had achieved.

The experiences I have collected have made me aware of what a woman needs to go through when her body doesn’t have hair or lacks some.

Talking about it with someone that can understand you’re going through is the first step that grants you freedom.
What comes later, the help in reconstructing a look you come to love of yourself, is secondary to the talk which is bound to highlight the options you have to proceed in your journey.

That’s why my job is not only about image, but it is also about perspectives to adopt in life!

Life Coaching: how a different perspective can make you switch from being bald to be bold

When you start losing you hair, it feels you are losing part of what made you feel beautiful, even more, of what made you feel you.

If you’re single, you might think things will get ugly for you. If you’re in a relationship, will that person be able to accept you even if you’re bald?

Silly questions, if you look at them from the outside. But they feel like giants on your shoulders when you’re living inside this situation; your head starts running in circles and you get stuck in this loop of negativity where everyone seems to notice your vulnerability and judge you for it, feeling sorry for you.

How to step out of it? Doing this alone it’s a hell of a challenge! It’s not impossible, but it could take you ages to figure out how to put your like back in line while facing the change your body is undergoing.

A life coach is there to help you see things in a way you couldn’t possibly think of if you had to fight all this by yourself.
A life coach helps your choosing a course of action to make your life be what you want it to be.

There's a difference between patching up a pair of jeans and buying new one!

We all have THAT ONE pair of jeans. The one you look with love and hate, the one you don’t want to throw away.
Well, sometimes we treat our body like that pair of jeans: we don’t want to accept it’s time to change to something newer.

One the biggest mistakes I see on bald faces at the supermarket, is their way of “covering up” the fact that they have lost their hair. I mean, a tiny piece of fabric, a bandanna, cover their head and two curved lines, I’d say a half-moon, where their eyebrows were before. 

If this is you putting effort to look like you used to before you got bald, you might want to not do anything at all, because the result not only doesn’t make you what you were, but it worsen the first impression that people have of you and puts you at the center of pity attention nobody would like to be in!

Take a second to think about it: whenever there’s a patch over a pair of jeans, that will be the first thing you notice, while with a new style people will just tell you how good you look today!

When my hair was gone, I felt like I had lost my identity, which I hold in great value.
Lost all at once. And that’s exactly what I needed to find: I needed to look at myself in the mirror finding a person I would recognize, not a made-up masque that was hiding herself behind “nice try, but no.”

My realization about the use of colors, shapes and volume during years of experimenting made me a new person, someone I could rely on and whose look was awesome, no matter the reason I was wearing it!

this picture shows my early stage of Tricho and it's the only picture I couldn't burn during a very dark time, because those babies made me happy even then ♡
here's a portrait of my bald head that I particularly love by a dear friend and a talented photographer Brando Visibelli, the first one to ever represent me as bald

I work with all women who have lost their face hair (eyebrows, eyelashes) and/or their hair for different reasons. The journey is divided in 5 steps ending with a final achievement that will make you become a bold bald girl, hence #theboldgirls!

Being a bold girl means being an empowered woman that despite her illness can show off a look that makes her feel proud and self confident.

How does it work? Easy!
It’s a challenge with yourself connecting you with me via

  • video calls,
  • emails and
  • tailor made tutorials.